Got Boys? Concerned for their School Success? - You Should Be.
Who doesn't like to place a “My Child is an Honor Roll Student at ____fill in the blank___”, on the back of their car (especially since these signs are mostly magnets now and not stickers)? As my grandma used to say, ‘It’s poor frog who doesn't praise its on pond’. While it may seem like all we have to do is keep up with homework and meet with teachers to ensure our kids get honor roll magnets, I know it’s much trickier than that. We are parenting two African American girls and one boy. Realistically I know the stakes are high for all of our children, but particularly our son. Statistically in school he, more than my girls, is:
- more likely to be disciplined,
- more likely to be recommended for evaluation for a learning disability and
- least likely to obtain a master’s degree.
- They live in households that attach a high value to academic success
- They have parents who help them understand that those who are successful in school are not magically smart. But rather, just like training for sports of any kind, excellence in school requires engagement and takes time to develop.
- They live in household with a biological father present *[I would add: or share a close relationship with father/father figure]
- Have highly educated parents *[I would add: or have access to those, either through church or in community, with high education background]
- *Note: Research has shown the power of children having access to natural mentors, i.e. neighbors, relatives, extended family who offer can offer brief or long-term mentorship.
What concerns do you have for your son in school?