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Making Time to ‘Just Do It’ and Say ‘Yes!’

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Making Time to ‘Just Do It’ and Say ‘Yes!’

 

 

What do you think about women having it all? Most women agree that it’s impossible to give 100% to family and career and be happy at the same time. Having it all for me doesn’t necessarily mean being perfect at everything, rather having a feeling of success at home and at work.  If there is one thing I’ve learned in my almost eight years as a wife and thirteen years as a mama is that trying to have it all is a balancing act which I still fumble, bumble and drop at least three to five times a week.  
I suppose one works at things as they come your way.  I got the family first and now I am working on my career.  With the family structure in place, I spend most if not all of my free time researching, writing, planning and then hitting repeat.  To do so takes all kinds of inspiration.   I am constantly walking around with the Nike Just Do It theme in my head.  I have made a commitment to focusing on building my career and sometimes I minimalize the many tradeoffs I make to do so. 
I realized I needed to strike a balance when just last year, at the ripe old age of six, my son proclaimed, ‘Mama’s on the laptop 24-7’
Ewww. Really?
Yes, really.  It’s not so bad that I have missed games or concerts.  But I do feel quite guilty when I am on my laptop and  I tell the kids no I can’t take you outside right now, or no I cannot watch a television show with. (Interestingly the same guilt isn’t felt when I tell them no in order to clean or cook lunch/dinner.)
I have however tried to make sure that I take Saturdays off.  It was hard at first, but now I don’t even look at my laptop on Saturdays. (okay truth, I do however peruse through my iPad…and phone throughout the day)
My next step is to say yes to more activities during the week and I got my chance last week. My two youngest had skate night for their school.  At first,  I easily found excuses not to go:
  • It’s a weeknight.
  • We can save the cash for another activity.
  • We will get home late and completely throw off our schedule.
 
But then I thought about it.  You only live once.  I’d hate to think that I gave up a chance to have fun with my three kiddos for an opportunity to send a tweet or compose as post.  That sounds pretty sad and selfish. So I went.  And I went not mad because I was there, not counting the minutes until it was over, not even trying to figure out how much time I would have left after bedtime to work on my laptop.  Without all of that to cloud my mind I was able to:
  • Laugh with my kiddos.
  • Watch their innocence while they played with their friends from school.
  • Witness their unwillingness to not leave the skating rink until they figured out how to take at least three steps without falling. 

 

 

  • I got the oldest to go too. Proving she’s still not too cool to be with her mama - yay!

 Just Do It mother tips time with kids

 
I had so much fun with the kiddos.  I am so glad that I applied the Nike Just Do It theme to my family and made the decision to say yes!

 

What about you? How do you balance work and family?

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