Making Time to ‘Just Do It’ and Say ‘Yes!’
What do you think about women having it all? Most women agree that it’s impossible to give 100% to family and career and be happy at the same time. Having it all for me doesn’t necessarily mean being perfect at everything, rather having a feeling of success at home and at work. If there is one thing I’ve learned in my almost eight years as a wife and thirteen years as a mama is that trying to have it all is a balancing act which I still fumble, bumble and drop at least three to five times a week. I suppose one works at things as they come your way. I got the family first and now I am working on my career. With the family structure in place, I spend most if not all of my free time researching, writing, planning and then hitting repeat. To do so takes all kinds of inspiration. I am constantly walking around with the Nike Just Do It theme in my head. I have made a commitment to focusing on building my career and sometimes I minimalize the many tradeoffs I make to do so. I realized I needed to strike a balance when just last year, at the ripe old age of six, my son proclaimed, ‘Mama’s on the laptop 24-7’ Ewww. Really? Yes, really. It’s not so bad that I have missed games or concerts. But I do feel quite guilty when I am on my laptop and I tell the kids no I can’t take you outside right now, or no I cannot watch a television show with. (Interestingly the same guilt isn’t felt when I tell them no in order to clean or cook lunch/dinner.) I have however tried to make sure that I take Saturdays off. It was hard at first, but now I don’t even look at my laptop on Saturdays. (okay truth, I do however peruse through my iPad…and phone throughout the day) My next step is to say yes to more activities during the week and I got my chance last week. My two youngest had skate night for their school. At first, I easily found excuses not to go:
- It’s a weeknight.
- We can save the cash for another activity.
- We will get home late and completely throw off our schedule.
- Laugh with my kiddos.
- Watch their innocence while they played with their friends from school.
- Witness their unwillingness to not leave the skating rink until they figured out how to take at least three steps without falling.
- I got the oldest to go too. Proving she’s still not too cool to be with her mama - yay!