Mamahood: Did You Get More Than You Asked for?
Comic from Off the Mark by Mark Parisi When I was a little girl I dreamed of having a family. I dreamed of having little ones running around and a husband to cook dinner for. Little did I know that raising a family is more than a notion, a feat that requires an extra arm or two – at least. My dream of motherhood became true before my dream of becoming a wife. The overwhelming love I felt for my oldest was exactly what I expected. What I did not expect was the sleep deprivation and the definite need to acquire the skill of changing diapers in the pitch dark, middle of the night in order to get some sort of sleep. Still with one child and no husband most nights my mommy day ended at 8:00 pm. When I was a single mama I dreamed of getting married and having more children. Little did I know I was asking for even more work. Don’t get me wrong, the hubby is a great help in the house. But we have an agreement to split certain family responsibilities. For instance, he gets to stay up all night and wait for the 24 hour plumber if a pipe breaks - while I sleep. Meanwhile I get to wake up in the middle of the night to dish out medicine to anyone whose cough won’t allow me to sleep. Even though I get out of my sleep for more coughs then he does for busted pipes, I don’t mind. Unless that is if I am beyond exhaustion, which is normally the case since now my days normally end at 11:30 or 12:00 am and begin five and a half hours later. There are times I call my mama and ask her, “This is what you were doing around the house all those years?” ‘Yes’. ‘’Is this what it really takes to raise a family?’ I ask. ‘Pretty much.’ She definitely made it look too easy. Sometimes though I still think, if only I had an extra arm. Not even an extra arm, an extra me. An extra me I could trade in when I need a timeout. A person to tag like when a football player comes to the sideline to catch their breath, replenish with water and Gatorade. Except in my world the Gatorade and water are chocolate fudge and cheese puffs and the breath of fresh air is a marathon of Law and Order uninterrupted.