Taking Note from the Pros: Keeping Our Children College Bound
Have you ever watched the A&E television series Intervention? I used to watch it faithfully. The best part of the show to me was the back story. Yes, I was interested in the person’s drug of choice. Sure, I wanted to see the family’s intervention and the person’s recovery. But, more than anything I wanted to see where perhaps the person, the featured addict, went wrong. Through my mama eyes their back story let me know if the cause of their addiction was rooted in some type of childhood or adult trauma or was it perhaps because they had parents (or parent) who never said the word ‘no’ – or at least they never said it with conviction. Since becoming a mama I make it my business now to investigate the parents responsible for raising successful adults. I am all in when I hear about a family that’s raised five doctors. My fist meets my chin and I lean in closer at the mention of parents whose children not only went to college and own a home but come back to visit their mama at church on Easter Sunday. When the kiddos were babies I couldn't help but to look at them and think: “What will they be when they grow up?” In that moment I just knew that whatever they wanted they could have. In their tiny bodies I could see all their potential just incubating away. We believe that college will greatly help our three reach their potential. As of right now everyone is on board with going to college. God knows we pray they all make it there. A recent study found that most high school students desire to attend a 2 or 4 year college after graduation, even 67% of non-college enrollees began high school believing they would go to college. In fact, the study found that students who did not attend college by the age of 26: -Tended to be male -Have parents who highest level of education was a high school diploma 46% -Took fewer academic courses in high school than their college-going peers -Spent less time on homework than their college-going peers The logical side of me knows that there are no guarantees, no step by step directions to follow when it comes to raising successful adults. I’ve seen parents pour everything they have into their children and still they end up going down a path that is not worthy of their travels. Still I figure it doesn't hurt to observe the parental Olympians. I believe that there is something to be learned by watching parents who can say that they’ve raised children that can afford to buy them furniture and take them out to eat. Practical or not, I’m taking notes on that type of parenting any day!
What parents of successful adults do you admire or look up to (besides your own mama and daddy)?